Monday, April 19, 2010

A Bridesmaid's Blog - What NOT to Wear.

Hi everyone!

My name is Ashly Moore and I am one of Hollyanne's bridesmaids. Let me begin by expressing how honored I am to be in Hollyanne and Kevin's wedding. I love them both so much and I am ecstatic about the wedding planning process, the big day, and of course, their new life together.

Now that being said, since Hollyanne is the first of my friends to get married, I have no idea what to expect and how exactly to be a productive member of the bridal party. However, I have discovered (the hard way) some bridesmaid duty "don'ts." (Please see below.)

1. Just because I would love a burrito and mojito bar at the reception, does not necessarily mean that the bride would as well (although Holl knows it would be a great time!)
2. Monogrammed pimp cups/whiskey flasks are not appropriate wedding favors.
3. The bachelorette party must be classy. This means no crazy Vegas getaway, strippers, etc. (*Holl - please follow these guidelines for my bachelorette party. Thanks and love ya bunches.)

Even though these are valuable nuggets of bridesmaid knowledge, the main lesson I have learned so far is...

Never wear flannel when going wedding dress shopping. EVER.

Please let me explain. Over Thanksgiving break Jolie (the maid of honor!) and I went with Hollyanne on her first wedding dress shopping experience. It was a very exciting time and I felt like I was on top of my bridesmaid game until...I saw what Jolie was wearing. We all met at David's Bridal and she was wearing a cute dress, tights, and flats. What was I wearing? That's right, a red flannel shirt (that resembles that of a lumberjack), a gray t-shirt, and black jeans. It was at that moment when I realized that (1) I looked like an idiot and (2) I had a lot to learn.

To make matters worse, earlier in the day Hollyanne, her sister Hannah, and I went outlet mall shopping and what did I wear? The same thing only with jorts (jean shorts) - see picture below. So basically to prepare for wedding dress shopping, I just changed my pants. And to take matters to yet another level, I'm pretty sure I woke up from a nap five minutes before we left and just threw my hair up in a ponytail. (I blame the tryptophan.)

Bottom line: When participating in wedding planning festivities, don't dress like a schmuck. Not only will you not receive the courtesy and respect that you desire, but it just doesn't reflect well on the bridal party. Period.

<-- Jolie!
What to wear.

Ashly. -->
What NOT to wear.

Regardless of the fact that I am oblivious to the "do's" and "don'ts" of being a bridesmaid, I do know that the most important thing is supporting the bride every step of the way. That being said, Holl - I promise to have your back. I will hold your dress up while you use the restroom, massage your feet if they cramp from wearing heels all day, and manage unruly, annoying guests. You just say the word and I'll be there.


  1. my dearest ashly, you have officially earned yourself a regular spot on the blog.

  2. Ashly - I didn't know dressing up was required for bride's maid dress shopping! Seems to me like it doesn't really matter what you have on when you arrive because you are going to be trying on things while there.

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  4. Holl - I'm so glad you like the blog! :)

    Fran - What you don't know about me is that my idea of dressing up means not wearing basketball shorts. Holl is probably the most laid-back bride I know and would never expect us to glam up for things. This blog was directed more toward myself than anyone else! :)

    (Omg, I had to correct a huge typo I made earlier...)